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Get Your Hand Out of my Pocket! - Handling Commission Beggars

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Austin Texas Homes, LLC 453249

 

In the course of my real estate career, I have had many people try to reach into my pocket and ask for a piece of my paycheck.  I recently wrote a post about this subject:  A Lesson Learned in my Real Estate Career

Though it is not always the case, I often feel like the people who ask for my money through rebates, discounts, etc. are trying to bully me.  I learned a long time ago that the most effective way to deal with a bully is to confront him.  Am I advocating punching a client in the face?  No.  Well, I guess if the situation called for it...never mind, let's just stick with "no" for now.

 

One thing I try to establish very early on with clients is the fact that I am the sole income earner in my house, and I am supporting a family of five.  Most decent people will avoid asking for any grocery money for my children.  That being said, there are those that are so oblivious and self-interested that they can't help themselves, and they have to ask. 

A few years back, I was the listing agent for a lot in west Austin that was listed at around $220,000 or so.  The seller and the potential buyer were both physicians.  The buyer made an offer of $210,000, and the seller came down to $215,000.  Then, the buyer asked me to "chip in" $5,000 to make the deal happen. 

This is where the conversation turned sour

And no, I am not embellishing the dialogue below.

BUYER: I am not using an agent for this deal, because I figured you had 6% to work with, and you could just chip in and make this deal happen.

ME: I have to be honest with you.  I don't like giving money to people who are wealthier than I am in order to help them buy properties.  I may not even be making 6% on this deal - you really don't have any way of knowing what we are charging the seller.  Can I ask you a question?

BUYER: Sure.

ME: You are a doctor, right?

BUYER: Yes.

ME: When you are working with patients, do you ever have anyone ask for a "deal" on your services?  If they can't pay the bill, do you immediately discount your fees? 

BUYER: No.  No, I don't.

ME: Interesting.  Me, neither.  Tell you what - I will work with the seller to see if we can get an agreement on price.  Please don't ask me about my commission any further.

Does this sound harsh to you?  Terse?  Probably so, but I am protective of my cash flow, and you should be, too! 

Incidentally, we did get the deal closed with that buyer, and this was one of the first times that I stood up to the proverbial bully.  Since then, I have found that this script (maybe slightly toned down) works with almost any line of work (e.g. Mr. Buyer, you are a plumber, right?  Do you charge less to unclog toilets when people ask for a break?).

(Here's one to use when a seller wants a big commission break on the front end): Mr. Seller, you sell ceiling fans, correct?  How many free fans do you give away each month?

(For use when your listing sells very quickly):Mr. Potential Client, has your boss ever taken a chunk of money from your paycheck because you did such a good job and he is happy with your performance?

You get the point.  Often, all you have to do is allow the other guy to walk a mile in your shoes.  Or maybe you're wearing his shoes with this script.  Either way, it works for me.

Don't let them bully you.  If you are a real estate professional, act like one.  Other professionals don't cave in and give away money to buy your business.  I am not saying that you should never alter your fees, but know your boundaries.  There is a reason that we are called "independent" contractors.

Thanks for reading!  Please feel free to share what works for you in this situation.

Austin Real Estate  Copyright Jason Crouch 2007  All rights reserved

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Comments(166)

Ron D'Aniello
Exit Realty Advisors - Tampa, FL

Great post Jason I will for sure use most if not all of your responses at some time in my career.  Thanks for the post. 

Mar 31, 2008 12:58 PM
Jim Lee, REALTOR, CRS, ABR
RE/MAX Shoreline - Portsmouth, NH
Buying or Selling? Ann & Jim are the local experts

My wife really gets angry when I give away part of my paycheck. Since I have to live with her I don't do it. ;-)

I have offered to let a couple of buyers call her and ask; neither one would do it and the deals closed.

Jul 29, 2008 01:17 AM
Ryan Field
RE/MAX Signature Properties - Fergus Falls, MN
Real Estate - Fergus Falls - MN 56537

Awesome post! We all work hard for our money and we provide a service. We therefore should be justly compensated for the service. Keep up the great posts.

Aug 20, 2008 01:47 AM
Ryan Field
RE/MAX Signature Properties - Fergus Falls, MN
Real Estate - Fergus Falls - MN 56537

Awesome post! We all work hard for our money and we provide a service. We therefore should be justly compensated for the service. Keep up the great posts.

Aug 20, 2008 01:47 AM
Tom Ikonomou
Tom Ikonomou - eXp Realty - Vancouver, BC
Innovated Marketing Specialist

It's a very tricky situation when you are asked to discount your commission. Will a seller take less than the agreed price? will the buyer pay more than the agreed price? will the realtor accept less than the realtors price? I don't know why any answer is justified.

When some one asks me if I will cut my commission,.. I tell them "only if you want me to discount my services" you see,.. it costs money to be a realtor. If you want me to just put a sign on the property "I could do that for cheap"

Aug 28, 2008 07:05 PM
Edie Lomason
Michael Saunders & Company - Venice, FL
BA, ABR

I am always amazed at the audacity of people asking for my money.  I am not buying the house.  I like that  line of yours about helping the Dr. buy his property.  What is wrong with these people?

Edie

Sep 05, 2008 08:31 AM
June Stark
Elite Realty-Luxury Homes & Condos On & Off the Strip - Las Vegas, NV
Las Vegas Condos & Luxury Homes Expert

Great blog - This just happened to me on a $2 million plus deal...I wound up caving into make it happen - Hopefully, I will be a bit stronger next time.

Sep 09, 2008 03:19 PM
Meli Gerogianis
JKA Properties (Meli G Realty & Investment Group) - Clarksville, TN
Broker, CRS, ABR, SFR, CDPE, Licensed in TN & KY

Good for you Jason! I use pretty much the same script. I ask them if they would work for half their regular pay for the next month or two if their boss would ask them to... They don't like that idea!

Sep 09, 2008 04:07 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

I think you handled the situation well and very professionally.  I think part of the problem is that our clients need to be educated as to the work we actually do for them.  It's more than putting a sign in a yard or writing up a contract, and sometimes, I don't think they realize that.

Sep 30, 2008 06:31 AM
Sonja Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Purcellville, VA

I think you handled that situation fabulously...I recently had a friend try to bleed me out of my commission...I didn't have it in me to fight back because of some company ads she found...hopefully in this case she will refer people to me and write a great testimonial but I have learned my lesson...and your post was an excellent reference.

Sep 30, 2008 01:20 PM
Sandy McAlpine
RE/MAX EXECUTIVE - Cornelius, NC
Search Lake Norman Homes For Sale - Lake Norman NC

amen! I have had a seller and a buyer confront me "together" in the garage to try to dwindle my commission away and I told them "no" and they told me I was ruining a deal. I tried to give them the "in your shoes" type script, but some people are just desparate these days!

Oct 27, 2008 11:29 PM
Carolyne L
Carolyne Realty Corp. - Burlington, ON

 

You might want to check out this old article I wrote... there are actually two articles in one... a link within the link.

http://www.carolyne.com/costs_usa.html

Cordially,
Carolyne

Carolyne

President and Broker of Record

Carolyne Realty Corp. Real Estate Brokerage

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Oct 29, 2008 01:18 AM
Vickie Nagy
Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate - Palm Springs, CA
Vickie Jean the Palm Springs Condo Queen

Thanks for this great reminder. It's true that we should spend out time on productive deals. Spending time on a looser takes away from the good deals.

Oct 29, 2008 04:44 AM
Milinda J. McGraw
M.J. & Associates - Hanson, MA

I have a question, has anyone ever had a co-broke office "just decide" not to pay the commission you earned & send you a referral check instead?  How about the day of a closing you find out that you are only getting paid 2.5% instead of the 3% listed on your Purchase & Sales?  I have had both of these situations happen to us, the first one took 3 years to finally win a judgement in court, with a six man jury I might add, and now its been 4 months and still no payment, just this past friday I had the 2nd incident happn & am now trying to figure out how to get my $920.00 difference between 2.5% & 3%.  Of course the one time I dont get to see a HUD sheet until after the closing ends, it has been changed without my knowledge.  I am so frustrated with this business lately!  If I was the one refusing to pay someone a commission they earned I would be in jail by now, but not these people.

Nov 03, 2008 09:57 AM
Laura Watts
Positive Properties, LLC - Laurinburg, NC

Jason-Well said and well put..... I feel the same way. Good blog.

Nov 03, 2008 10:11 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Jason,

I love this on protecting your commission. You are so right!!!! Strong measures are sometimes needed to protect not only your commission but your integrity as a professional!

Jan 25, 2009 12:15 AM
S J
Coquitlam, BC

LOL I love it and its so true! I will use that next time I'm in that situation! Its so simple and should work!

Oct 13, 2009 12:23 PM
Leslie Roche
Reddy Realty, LLC - South Windsor, CT
Sell or Buy with the Best!

Oh, you said it so wonderful! Thank you!!

Feb 16, 2012 11:44 AM
Larry Costa
Century 21 Classic Gold, Carver MA - Carver, MA
Realtor, MA Real Estate

Great blog. We work too hard for our money and so many people try to negotiate it away from us. Some times agents cave too easy in fear of losing the deal.

Feb 15, 2013 09:53 PM
Marlene Shelton Giles
RE/MAX 1st Olympic REALTORS,Lynchburg, Va. - Lynchburg, VA

Great,, we deal with this all the time..... great comments.

Sep 10, 2013 10:10 AM