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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
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In a word.  NO. 

I would with dignity and grace decline the offer for a cigar and say, by all means, please do enjoy your cigar.  

Mar 05, 2023 06:06 PM
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Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
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Absolutely.  I am a cigar smoker, and would be delighted to participate.  Not because I would be worried about offending the client... there are plenty of ways to politely decline without causing an international incident, and I'm sure the client would understand.. but it's rare, these days, for me to have an opportunity to share a cigar "indoors" with a friend.

The only caveat, if it's a Cuban cigar... they tend to be a little stronger than this old man can handle, and I will not likely be able to finish it without turning a lovely shade of green. and returning a portion of the lovely dinner, which I'm sure would offend my hosts.

Mar 05, 2023 05:21 PM
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Lynnea Miller
Bend Premier Real Estate - Bend, OR
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I have never taken a puff of anything in my life.  If I attempted to smoke a cigar, I would probably cough the client out of his house!  No.  I say thank you, but I don't smoke. But please enjoy one yourself. 

Mar 05, 2023 08:34 PM
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Wayne Martin
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Not having smoked in almost 40 years, I would be honored by the offer but am with Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist .

Mar 06, 2023 04:06 AM
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Karen Climer
Demetree School of Real Estate - Orlando, FL
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Not a chance.  I would acknowledge that I appreciate the gesture but I have to decline.

I would treat it the same way if someone offered me something I'm allergic to.  Let's say you are fatally allergic to ice cream and someone offers you ice cream (because that is important in their culture).  You would gracefully decline.

Mar 06, 2023 01:38 AM
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
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No, but I would apologize for not joining in and hope the client is not offended but hope he enjoys it. I have never smoked a cigar and won't start doing so.

Mar 05, 2023 07:45 PM
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J.R. Schloemer
Kentucky Select Properties - Louisville, KY

I would have to thank them and politely decline. Never smoked and do not plan starting now. Too much addiction in my family and not enough to support those vices.

Mar 05, 2023 07:22 PM
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John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
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I don't smoke. Trying to smoke the cigar would end up badly.

Now...if the choice was a cigar or a nice after dinner drink, I am sure we could work something out.

Mar 05, 2023 05:38 PM
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Kat Palmiotti
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I would also say no. Oh, thank you so much for the kind offer - I truly appreciate it, but I just don't smoke. Please enjoy yours!

Mar 06, 2023 04:41 AM
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Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
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Hmm, I am not a smoker but if I was I would certainly accept it.  I have been over to numerous clients' homes for dinner and have always accepted an adult libation or two, haha.

Mar 06, 2023 03:43 AM
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
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No, it would not happen. Same reason I would not cut off my fingers when someone dies (I have a big family and I appreciate finger function), eat fish eyes or chicken butts just because it is someone else's culture.

Mar 05, 2023 05:49 PM
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Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
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If you are a cigar smoker or curious to  - YES definitely.

If you're not, politely decline.

I grew up with my best friend's family's Iranian/Jordanean culture.

After dinner we always smoked from an Nargileh or Hookah: Fresh tobacco with a coal on top. I always participated because it was so social and as a teenager I was fascinated that they allowed me to smoke. 

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Mar 06, 2023 07:37 AM
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Don Baker
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I would.  But I smoke cigars.

Mar 06, 2023 06:50 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
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I am offered a cigar. I smell it, touch it and comment: this is a high-quality cigar thank you for sharing it. I'll smoke it later. 

Mar 06, 2023 06:23 AM
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Candice A. Donofrio
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Sure! BUT I'm gonna warn them that I would most likely be wasting their cigar . . . one puff and done!
I HATE cigarette smoke with a passion . . . but my grampa loved his cigars and there is something sweet about it for me . . .

If someone does not wish to partake, a simple 'no thank you' should suffice.

Mar 06, 2023 06:17 AM
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Susan Emo
Kingston, ON
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Once again, the cultural difference between the US and Canada.  Dinner parties were dying a death about 5 years ago and the Pandemic sealed it.  We're a very insular bunch up here and rarely are non family invited to dine in ones home.  I cannot imagine being invited to smoke indoors other than cannabis  [wink]

Mar 06, 2023 05:03 AM
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
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No way. I don't smoke anything and never have. I would tell that client I appreciate the offer but as my mother died of lung cancer from smoking for 50+ years, it's something I can't bring myself to do.

Mar 06, 2023 04:20 AM
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Bob Crane
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I have never smoked a cigar.

If I did smoke then I would certainly join the client for a smoke, since I dont I may thank him and save it for a reminder of a wonderful evening.

Mar 05, 2023 05:56 PM
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
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No, as I don't smoke & prefer not to be with people that do especially cigars. You can politely say you don't smoke.

Mar 06, 2023 05:35 AM
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Peter Mohylsky, Destin BeachPro
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Maybe, I do enjoy a cigar now and then. If he offered something else to smoke. No, I don’t participate.

Mar 06, 2023 05:32 AM
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Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
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I personally would not. I don't smoke and it would most likely make me sick. I also have personal feelings about it after seeing how my grandmother suffered due to smoking most of her life. 

Mar 06, 2023 05:29 AM
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Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

No. I would say no thank you.

Mar 06, 2023 05:25 AM
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Sean Gilliam
LoKation Real Estate - Longmont, CO
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Yes, for two reasons.  First, he is making a gesture of friendship with something that is very important to him.  I would gladly accept to solidify that friendship and not unduly offend him.  Secondly, I like cigars and would gladly enjoy one while enjoying their company.  I surmise that he wouldn't offer a cigar to someone that he didn't think would enjoy it.

Mar 06, 2023 07:22 AM
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Anna "Banana" Kruchten
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HA! Like anyone is going to offer me a cigar!  I do get the reasoning but do they also ask the ladies?

Mar 06, 2023 10:48 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
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If it is cultural, I doubt he would offer a cigar to a woman. Even I have a friend lady who likes sometimes to share cigar time with a men company, most of us do not. 

Mar 06, 2023 11:45 AM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
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Only if YOU want to, I don't think there's a right or wrong. It's like accepting the dinner itself, UP TO YOU. The host would not be insulted if you said "Thank you, I don't smoke cigars", or "Thanks, no dessert for me today"; same thing. Cuban cigars ARE special! Hope it was a Monte Cristo.


Mar 06, 2023 11:14 AM
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Tammy Lankford,
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As a lady I think I could easily decline without offending anyone.  And that's exactly what I would do.

Mar 06, 2023 11:00 AM
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Carol Williams
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As a woman, I doubt that gesture would be extended to me. If it was, I would politely decline.

Mar 06, 2023 10:58 AM
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Shayne Stone
HomeSmart - Fulshear, TX
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No matter what the cultural is, Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate I wouldn't mind, as I enjoy experiencing different cultural to learn that much more about.

 

But I really enjoy a good cigar especially while I am playing on the Links!!! LOL

 

Mar 06, 2023 10:27 AM
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John Meussner
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Ugh, smoking is gross!!!

 

......except when it's a good cigar.  Pass me the torch and let's get to puffin' : )

 

For context, I enjoy the heck out of a good cigar.....maybe about once or twice a year.

Mar 06, 2023 09:21 AM
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Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
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Men having a cigar at the end of the dinner was a custom in my parents day. Women did not participate in this ritual, but I remember as a child the wonderful smell of good cigars to this day.  And, no, I would not want anyone to smoke a cigar or anything else in my house today.  Hopefully your client has a "smoking room" or that you were invited outside.  Back to your question, if I were offered a cigar and you really wanted to participate, no law says you shouldn't if you want to.  If you didn't want to, I would still go outside (where you are hopefully headed) with the client and stand upwind from him while he enjoys his cigar. PS. Way back, I used to smoke the occasional "ladies" cigar on my frequent trips to Europe.  It didn't get me instantly addicted. Cigarettes are a whole different deal: no way would I ever "join" someone in smoking one.  Except for an occasional puff in my teens, have never taken up the habit, thank the lord.

Mar 06, 2023 08:34 AM
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Steven Nickens
Hawaii Life Real Estate Brokers - Wailea, HI
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Ok I don't smoke, but a good Cuban cigar what the heck yes.

Mar 06, 2023 05:28 PM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
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I would decline with grace and let him know how honored I am at his offer. 

Mar 07, 2023 10:45 PM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
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I've smoked maybe 3 cigars in my life.  It's not something I go out of my way to do, but have done with friends.  I'd probably go ahead and smoke the cigar, especially if it was a Cuban.

Mar 06, 2023 02:58 PM