Oh man. I'm Italian. We don't really forgive - we just wait for the karma train to run the a-hole over. Then we drink!

A strong person forgives and is a winner, let the other side be the loser, it's their God given choice to be the loser, unless they choose otherwise.

I'm guessing that many don't understand forgiveness, it will be to their detriment.

I harbored negative feelings for a very long time about someone who did all those things to me, or at least that's how I viewed it. We had already apologized to each other years before, but everytime I thought of this person, my stomach tied up in knots and I was resentful. I remember one day reading something about how resentment only hurts the one who is resentful. And the next time I thought of this person, I made some sort of gesture with my hands of kneading all that negativity into a ball and throwing it into the universe. And you know what? I haven't been mad at that person since. The only one I was hurting was myself. And it was negative and stupid and a total waste of my energy. 

I think I'm safe in saying most active real estate agents have experienced some or all of what you described.  I distance myself.... if I didn't, I would be stooping to the ugly person's level.... I'd have to drag the SOB out back and shoot her/ him.... 

I don't...

Why do I need to "forgive" a lying, deceitful, greedy, broker who worked extra hard to try to cheat me out of a $20K referral fee?

I see absolutely no reason to "forgive" her...or even try to.

Eve

Very simple, just forgive and keep going.

Forgive, but don't forget. After judging one by their actions, one can decide to totally disengage or whatever, but forgiveness is a must for your own heart...more importantly your soul.

Living by The Golden Rule has kept me from experiencing much unfair treatment in my life. If something happens and they apologize, I very quickly forgive. If they don't apologize, I still forgive - it just may be something that I'll then never forget though!

For the most part, harboring ill will is not worth the energy you expend, Annette. In my opinion, that's winning in the cheater's mind so, let go and let God!

Yes & I have not found a way to do it successfully. There are many quotes as to why you should but it's easier said than done. There are plenty of reasons not to forgive someone ....

Annette,

We both have a highly developed sense when it comes to not engaging with this type of person.  Fortunately we have heeded our gut 100% !  We are also fortunate in the ability of letting things go, and are constantlly getting better at mindfulness.  A

To be honest I really can't remember when I was egregiously treated unjustly, unfairly, invalidated, accused or cheated. Maybe they are all too afraid of me? Then again, I treat people the way I want to be treated and somehow that works. I also have a pretty good sixth sense about people to stay away from.

    Christ told me to forgive.  So I do it.

I forgive myself.  It does not always happen quickly. There is a process of looking at my role in the situation.  What could I have done differently? Knowing what I could have done differently, would I gave done things differently knowing what I knew at the time.  There are real life lessons in trusting the wrong people.  

One problem with harboring resentment is the idea that we had control over the situation or decision. Even when you believe it to be wrong there may not be much you can do about. When it is the other person's decision it is out of our control.

I sit back and let karma take over

Time helps this process as does stopping the intrusion. Self-examination, taking responsibility, mourning for the injustice help one to reach the surface & then to rise above it all. Staying objective helps. Centering aides as well. In the end, "they know not what they do" applies to all and everything

Always demonstrate kindness.

Always remember, you can't fix stupid!

I have the same answer Nina Hollander ... Except for the occasional driver zipping in front of me to take a parking space I was waiting for, I just cannot even remember a time when this happened.  Now, maybe I HAVE been cheated at some point of something, but if so, I am blissfully unaware. 

Often I forgive and not forget.

Sometimes it takes a lifetime, much harder to do than logic would dictate.

My Bible says Forgive 7 times 70 ... so that's what I do.  Forgive and Move on!  Life is too short to hold grudges!  I want to have a clear conscious ... and holding onto resentment is like a cancer that grows and grows and kills everything around me. 

As an Irish/Italian aka Nitro & Glycerin, I have to agree with Candice A. Donofrio . We let Sonny drive to the toll booth and instant karma takes over.

Compartmentalize.

I Normally Forget, Never Forgive....I have always worked by "treat others as you want to be Treated"...only failed me Once on a 700k commercial transaction..that is the only one that still nags at me..everytime i drive past the building

After trying to have a rational discussion/dialogue, I personally 'moved on' Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041.  I could no longer continue to validate this person, and realized that I could not judge them, even if they could judge others.  This was on-going for a few years, though I'm 'slow to learn' and 'overlooked' certain behaviors, though it became harder to 'overlook' words.  Fortunately, this was not a business relationship, because I could not see a way to 'try harder or try differently' on my part.  I was happy to move on, and realized that if someone is toxic to me, then that is not a long-term true friendship.  When you see someone being mean, to others, and to have it turned on you, it's truly not a 'live and let live' relationship.  I have not regretted my decision to 'move forward and not look back'.  I saw no reason to forgive someone else for their thoughts, because it was their thoughts and words.  

I don't forgive.

I usually send them 1-2 ounces of lead

Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 you gift us with some of the most inspirational and thought provoking questions I have seen lately here in the Rain. Just wanted to take this opportunity to express my gratitude to you. You have added to my life by inspiring some deeper thought and learning. THANK YOU.

Oh, my answer to your question... I've taught meditation for decades and have several wonderful pratices for forgiveness. I forgave a relative for absconding with over a half million in funds that should have gone to our children. Right can still be right, no need to constrict our heart and limit our love or forgiveness.

I surrender to knowing it is not my place to judge someone.  We can never know what the other person is dealing with and negative or aggressive actions seem to come from a source of pain.  I let it go quite easily. 

 "driftwood always come to shore"....

I try not to be bogged down by carrying excess baggage...  I like to have fun and enjoy life - so I find it's best to pack lightly :)

There's no magic formula; you just have to do it and then move on.

I try to just move on.

Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM nailed this one!

After I get over the shock, I move on. Can't change the past, but you can change the future.

Of course, since that is part of life. The best way to overcome is to look forward, not backward.

i very seldom hold a grudge, but I may not trust so quickly again

Move on not to reengage in conflict......

If I catch that person who is a realtor ...

Just forget about it!

Lots and lots of wasted or pointless negative emotions... sometimes it just takes time to forgive or at least to forget

Time heals everything, well maybe.

It is a very deep question for me personally, since I went through years of spiritual journey to learn to forgive myself and others, and still do. I just talked with my friend about surrendering and letting go. Read Tao, make time just for yourself daily, meditate, allow negative thoughts flow through your mind easily, count your blessings, be kind. 

No.

It is not worth my time, health or energy to let someone else's poor attitude, poor treatment or poor action impact me. As I have gotten older, it is easier for me to distance myself from such people.  Fill your life with those who see the glass half full rather than those who are bitter and depressing.