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Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
CEO of Vision Drive Realty - Coastal San Diego

I keep my clients out of  bad deals.

If they weren't my client, but my friend, I'd be empathetic. There's no love in "I told you so".

Mar 22, 2017 05:59 AM
Rainmaker
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Depending on the situation and how well I might know a client, if they are heading towards a bad decision and ignore my best advice, I jokingly warn them that I'll be a big "I told you so" when things do go wrong. In reality, I don't do it, however, as by the time things go wrong they are usually already kicking themselves and why kick someone who's already down? At that point it's up to me to help them solve the problem.

Mar 22, 2017 05:25 AM
Rainmaker
4,800,082
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

All of these types of situations would require an different amount of compassion.

Mar 22, 2017 06:44 AM
Rainmaker
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTAcondos.com
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

I make sure I keep my clients out of a bad situation, that is why they hire me.

Mar 22, 2017 06:02 AM
Rainmaker
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Working the exprired lists i see many would be sellers who made poor choices from listing with the person who gave them the highest price to the discount alley to trying themselves. I do not say i told you so, but often tell them what i can do to help and get the listing the second time around

Mar 22, 2017 05:29 AM
Rainmaker
1,045,440
Dave Martin (703) 585-4687
Fairfax Realty - Fairfax, VA
Making Realty Dreams a Reality #WeWillGetYouHome

I try to avoid saying I told you so to anyone its just tacky and rubbing salt in the wound not to mention makes you look like a real.

Dec 12, 2017 06:32 AM
Rainmaker
599,124
Nathan Gesner
American West Realty and Management - Cody, WY
Broker / Property Manager

Bite my lip. People either learn from their mistakes or don't.

Mar 23, 2017 07:24 PM
Rainmaker
4,901,400
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

I try to give advise but some do not want it.

 

Mar 23, 2017 06:59 AM
Rainmaker
898,048
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

If they walked into it with their eyes open and understood the risk, it was a business decision that needs no emotion.

Mar 23, 2017 04:58 AM
Rainmaker
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Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
HomeSmart - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Annette - I try never to say "I told you so," but I have thought it a couple of times when people decided to do their own thing. If they are a client of mine, I will show compassion and get them out of any bad deal as best as I can.

Mar 22, 2017 11:40 PM
Rainmaker
4,319,419
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 - get everything in writing - so there is no 'I told you so'!

Mar 22, 2017 09:51 PM
Rainmaker
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

I respect everyone's decisions. If they asked my advice and still got themselves into trouble, I would not annoy them with ''I told you so! I'm always right''. Everyone is entitled on their mistakes. 

Mar 22, 2017 09:31 PM
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Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I am not a I told you so kind of girl. I listen for a short time and move on.

Mar 22, 2017 07:48 PM
Rainmaker
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

For me it depends on the client on how I handle it

Mar 22, 2017 06:42 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Neither, I recognize the mistake and start working on solutions to the problem.

Mar 22, 2017 04:26 PM
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Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

      Everybody gets taken once or twice in life.   Hopefully, it is when they are young, they can learn from the experience.

Mar 22, 2017 04:20 PM
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Depends on who it is and our relationship. I told you so is never a good response!

Mar 22, 2017 12:50 PM
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Sharon Altier
Coldwell Banker Realty - Elmhurst, IL
Luxury Property Specialist, CSC, SFR

If someone asks me an opinion, I would point out that they knew the risks and were blinded by the greed.  However, if no opinion asked, I would withhold any such opinion.   We all get blinded by greed at some point in our lives.  No need to be condescending and imply that you told them so. 

Mar 22, 2017 12:25 PM
Rainmaker
2,775,781
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Learning curves are personal, expensive and custom-made to the person

Mar 22, 2017 12:17 PM
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Julie Larson Realtor® Sarasota FL 941-284-9826
White Sands Realty Group FL | 941-284-9826 | Serving Sarasota, Manatee & Charlotte Counties - Sarasota, FL
When you're thinking of moving...ThinkSuncoast.com

I would never tell anyone "I told you so". Most people feel bad enough when they make that dumb mistake.

Last year I was working with a buyer who fell in love with a house, but refused to come up to the seller's counter offer. We were off by $5000. After missing out on that deal, my buyer lamented about it for quite awhile. They kept telling me how they should have listened to me, but now regretted not doing so. They felt plenty bad without me pointing out I was right. 

Happy ending - we found a home that they loved even more than the other and they were happy to pay more for it!

Mar 22, 2017 11:28 AM
Rainmaker
1,498,438
Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

When you spend your free time rescuing people from a "bad deal" they got themselves into on a canyon road or on a trail, you have to have empathy, a thick skin and a dark sense of humour.

Mar 22, 2017 11:10 AM
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Eve Alexander
Buyers Broker of Florida - Tampa, FL
Exclusively Representing ONLY Tampa Home Buyers

I have compassion for the poor, the sick, the elderly and animals.

I have no compassion for those that don't listen and later pay the price.

Eve

Mar 22, 2017 10:23 AM
Rainmaker
760,523
Tony Lewis
Summit Real Estate Group - Valencia, CA
Summit Real Estate Group Valencia & Aliso Viejo

We give advice all the time and much of it gets ignored.  The clients that have chosen to work with someone else often make a catastrophic mistake by doing so.  Unfortunately for them they are stuck in the bed they made.  We could be an "I told you so" but instead we just feel bad for them and helpless to correct the situation.

Mar 22, 2017 10:09 AM
Rainmaker
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Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - BoiseMeridianRealEstate.com - Boise, ID
Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties

People do what they want to do often despite good advice. Not sure an "I told you so" solves anything.-Kasey

Mar 22, 2017 09:37 AM
Rainmaker
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Try to avoid any exposure to a bad deal for a customer. If they decide to proceed, it might be against my better judgment. Once done, I would never rub it in with "I told you so"!

Mar 22, 2017 09:14 AM
Rainmaker
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

NO one is immune to mistakes, one just moves on and keeps everything on a positive note.  A

Mar 22, 2017 08:48 AM
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

It depends on who it is. If it was a close friend that is in turn compassionate to others I would say nothing but just listen. If the person was the office bully, well that's another thing entirely & would not let up on the looser I told you so.

Mar 22, 2017 08:41 AM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thanks for sharing 

Mar 22, 2017 08:39 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

I never bite my tongue.... no scars on mine....

Mar 22, 2017 08:31 AM
Rainmaker
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Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Florida Realty Investments - , CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

I try to get the person to assess the situation to prevent future repeats and try to get them to look on the positive.

Mar 22, 2017 07:31 AM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

The world needs more compassion. We have all made bad decisions in life. Hopefully we learn from them.  I'd offer support and understanding. I told you so serves no one .... No. One. 

Mar 22, 2017 07:18 AM
Rainmaker
1,712,551
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

Empathy and compassion are good values.

Mar 22, 2017 07:05 AM
Rainmaker
1,466,207
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 They've suffered enough without me adding to their misery.

Mar 22, 2017 06:52 AM
Rainmaker
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Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

They do not need a reminder from me.

Mar 22, 2017 06:36 AM
Rainmaker
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Harry F. D'Elia III
WEDO Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

there will always be times such as this one

Mar 22, 2017 06:35 AM
Rainmaker
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Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

The key is giving full disclosure about the RISK  ! I often will resell a property that tanked at a reduced commission to demonstrate I feel their pain .

Mar 22, 2017 05:52 AM