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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
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Hi Debbie... I think we all know someone like this whom we can help. I'm one of those people, who while loving Christmas, can get a bit depressed as we get closer because so many of my loved ones with whom I celebrated Christmas for most of my life are no longer with us.

Dec 17, 2015 09:27 PM
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Marco Giancola
Beachfront Realty - Miami Beach, FL
Realtor (305)608-1922, Miami Beach Florida

Yes I do and yes I do,  And that lifts me up too

Dec 17, 2015 09:12 PM
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Kathleen Luiten
Resort and Second-Home Specialist - Princeville, HI
Kauai Luxury Ocean Home Sales

Yes and yes. Just got off the phone with one a few minutes ago. At least I got her laughing with me so she may go to sleep with a smile tonight.

Dec 17, 2015 04:37 PM
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Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

This is the second year my aunt with face a christmas without my uncle. She is 89 years old.  We take her to celebrate with the rest of our family at our family meal.

Dec 17, 2015 12:05 PM
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Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

No, I don't know of anyone personally, just that there are some who do. Actually, the first holidays of every kind after a loved one passes is hard.

Dec 17, 2015 11:07 AM
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Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker - Evanston, IL
Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

It happens to me Debbie, I mist my father.

Dec 17, 2015 10:47 AM
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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

It's not always a happy time for everyone so it's good to be mindful of it -- sometimes just a smile and a nice word can go a long way.   

Dec 18, 2015 12:01 AM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

Yes, I track two people to be concerned about at holidays. One deals with the suicide of a child, and the other has a recurrence of is cancer. You can take the pain away but you can be a good listener who empathizes.

Dec 17, 2015 09:17 PM
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Dennis Swartz
Full Circle Property Management - Columbus, OH
MBA, GRI...experience counts!

I know many who have lost loved ones and are sad....including me, so I get it. I think its best to not dwell on it as they don't really want their spirits lifted, just to let it pass. Just empathy is best.

Dec 17, 2015 06:59 PM
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TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

 Good morning Debbie. Christmas is typically associated as being a family holiday. Some folks have given up on themselves and their families.

Dec 17, 2015 05:10 PM
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Hella Mitschke Rothwell
(831) 626-4000 - Honolulu, HI
Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker

It's not a happy time for so many people. Many know how to help themselves by going to their loved ones rather than staying home.  Me? I make it a point to be in Hawaii with my grandsons and family.

Dec 17, 2015 01:25 PM
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Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

I don't know anyone that has a difficult time at this time of the year, but if I do, I would do what I could to brighten their day. 

Dec 17, 2015 12:10 PM
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Pete Xavier
Investments to Luxury - Pacific Palisades, CA
Outstanding Agent Referrals-Nationwide

Yes, right here. A bit down about some investments, but I should not complain at all, considering there are many in dire straights. Incredible story about a strong girl named Safyre Terry reminds me that I should not complain and count my blessings. 

Dec 17, 2015 10:55 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

I have a close friend who lost her husband a while back that we call alot.

Dec 18, 2015 08:42 AM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
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Whenever possible, unfortunately depressed people become very quiet and are easily unnoticed.

Dec 18, 2015 06:44 AM
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Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

I do know a few friends that hate this time of year.  I don't necessarily try to lift their spirits, I just try to be there for them and let them know they aren't alone.  

Actually, that usually lifts their spirits, so yes.  :)

Dec 18, 2015 04:26 AM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Yes and it is every year

Dec 18, 2015 04:21 AM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

I will do my best when I recognize the symptoms. 

Dec 18, 2015 03:47 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Nope.  Don't know anyone like that.  Would help them if I did though.

Dec 18, 2015 03:15 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Debbie,

Excellent thought here.  A few years ago, we were invited to speak at UCSB on that topic of relationships at this time of the year.  We were amazed how well attended that was...Yes, we take time out for that.  A

Dec 18, 2015 12:30 AM
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John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
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Yes and yes.  We try to go the extra mile in paying it forward to the elderly and shut ins.

Dec 17, 2015 11:24 PM
Rainmaker
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

I do not know anyone; however if I did I would reach out to them.

Dec 17, 2015 10:51 PM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Yes, therre are some who get depressed at this time of year. And yes, I try to get them out of the dumps!

Dec 17, 2015 10:23 PM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I have clients  who lost their mother on Christmas eve three years ago.

Dec 17, 2015 10:15 PM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

There are many here on AR who mettle has been tested through the process of lose. No remedy exists to divert the waves of grief whose visitation lessens each year. It is just the part of who we are that keeps compassion awake.

For me the action of choice is engagement. For me the preferred response to those who find themselves depressed, as the result of lose, is to bring honor to memory of the missing. "It's OK and natural. Celebrate what they have added to you."

At this time of year we should be aware of two versions of Hallelujah, the one that warms us, the other that reminds us our reality is not shared by many. Their broken Hallelujah cries to be heard.

Dec 17, 2015 09:08 PM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

No

Dec 17, 2015 08:58 PM
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Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
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Good morning Debbie. That is probably why we do two food drives, one now the other in Feb. We always see it as our responsibility to do what we can for those in need.

Dec 17, 2015 05:09 PM
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FN LN
Toronto, ON

No.

Dec 17, 2015 11:32 AM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

The depression is often on TFT in RE. Yes!

 

Dec 17, 2015 10:49 AM