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It's Father's Day this Sunday and Daddy, I Miss You!

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Buyers' Choice Realty

Every year around this time it's difficult for me.  Everyone celebrates their father and Daddy, I can't help it, but I'm jealous.  You've been gone over ten years now.  I come and visit you by the weeping willow and I'm fine, but Daddy every time I touch your head stone the tears just start pouring. 

  

I still feel your presence, but Daddy I wish you were here in body, not just in spirit.  I miss you, I miss your advice, I miss your company, I miss your love, your guidance, your support, your laughter, your friendship! 

  

My most treasured possession is the book I wrote for you when you passed away.  I titled it "A Celebration of Life" in your honor, because Daddy, you were always so alive, so spirited.  When your light went out, your lifeless body did not even resemble you.  You were always so engaged by life, so passionate about everything you did. 

  

In Montserrat last year I lit a candle for you and said a silent prayer.  I light a candle for you every time I walk into a church.  This Sunday I'll light another candle and I'll say my silent prayer.  I thank you for loving me and my sister so much and letting us know how special we were to you.  I feel your presence every day of my life and I see your spirit in my own children.  I thank you Daddy for all the things small and large that you taught me and showed me, but most of all I thank you for your love!  I miss you Daddy!

 

Mirela

  

  

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Comments (35)

Bob Volanti
Keller Williams Realty Fresno - Clovis, CA
Fresno and Clovis, CA Realtor

Mirela,

You've given your dad a wonderful tribute and you honor him with the incredible life you lead. You are his gift to the world.

On this Father's Day, I will visit my dads's grave and simply say, "Thanks Dad, I love you always."

He'll know what I mean. Your's knows too.

Thanks for the post.

Jun 14, 2008 06:32 AM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Bob:  See what you did?  You made me cry! 

Thank you for your amazing comment: "You are his gift to the world".  That is probably the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me and I will never forget it!

Your comment, every word of it, is very touching! 

Thank you! 

...And yes, your father knows...

 

Jun 14, 2008 06:54 AM
Arina Hanciulescu
RealtyPros - Las Vegas, NV
RealtyPros

Mirela, You made me cry... I am so lucky to have my father still here but you also have your father here in your heart and he'll never leave you.

When I was a little girl and lost my grandfather I had a talk with my dad and cried on his shoulder. I asked: Dad what happens when somebody dies? and my father told me: When somebody dies is just that you don't see them but they come to live in your heart forever and never leaves you. This days I still believe that!

My granpa is here in my heart every minute of my life. I see life through his eye.

Jun 14, 2008 07:29 AM
Bob Volanti
Keller Williams Realty Fresno - Clovis, CA
Fresno and Clovis, CA Realtor

Mirela,

Thank you for the kind words. I have bookmarked and voted featured as I think you deserve to have your tribute read by all. Mom's and Dad's alike. I have invested hours in reading your blogs yet I don't comment all that much.

I have my feet up on my home office desk, leaning back in my chair, scrolling with the mouse. Commenting means I have to sit up straight and type, like now.

You've posted some terrific posts here and this one hit home for me.

Jun 14, 2008 08:10 AM
Karen Monsour
Coldwell Banker Fort Lauderdale Beach - Fort Lauderdale, FL
REALTOR, SSRS - Sells FL Waterfront, Short Sale Expert!

Mirela,

Nice talking to you last night and the "tear's" as well...I've bookmarked this for future reference as well. Thank you!

Jun 14, 2008 08:25 AM
Robert Rauf
CMG Home Loans - Toms River, NJ

Mirela,

You made me cry... This year will be the first Father's day w/o my dad.  Last father's day he went into the hospital and never made it back home.  We lost him the end of July.  I still catch myself picking up the phone to call him, thinking about driving over to see him.  The holidays are the most difficult.  I miss him....

Jun 14, 2008 09:21 AM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

"Then a woman said, Speak to us of Joy

and Sorrow.

And he answered:

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.

And the selfsame well from which your

laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your

tears.

And how else can it be?

The deeper that sorrow carves into your

being, the more joy you can contain.

Is not the cup that holds your wine the very

cup that was burned in the potter's oven?

And is not the lute that soothes your

spirit, the very wood that was hollowed

with knives?

When you are joyous, look deep into

your heart and you shall find it is only that

which has given you sorrow that is giving

you joy.

When you are sorrowful look again in

your heart, and you shall see that in truth

you are weeping for that which has been

your delight."

(this is a passage from one of my most favorite authors: Kahlil Gibran, from his masterpiece titled "The Prophet")

Robert:  This is going to be a difficult Father's Day for you too.  I will be with you in spirit.  All of us who lost our Fathers will be in each others' thoughts as we share a common pain. 

Karen:  It was really good to cry with you last night!  I feel for you and for what you are going through right now.  It's going to be very difficult and no amount of preparation can ready you for the journey.  Enjoy NOW as much as you can.  Say all that you can, touch, hug, hold each other.  Get it all now while he is still alive because you'll have to make it last...

Bob:  I had no idea.  I am very flattered!  I have a lot to say and writing is probably the most pleasurable thing I've ever done.  Switching to a second language and finding my voice in English was an exhaustive quest, but one that I was determined to master.  It is extremely rewarding to have an audience now.  Thank you!

Arina:  You know that I couldn't read the blog that you wrote about your father.  I came back again and again, but the tears just made it impossible to read it.  Just looking at it made me cry.   I left you a comment to that effect.  It is so weird, because I am always so happy when other people are happy.  I always feel joy when others are joyous and sad when they are sad.  I am never jealous.  This is the only time that I am and it's such a foreign feeling.  I just miss him and wish that I still had him around.  I will go visit my 95 year old grandmother tomorrow.  I know she will go next and I want to touch her and kiss her and stroke her hair and tell her how much I love her.  Cherish the ones you love while you still have them! 

  

  

Jun 14, 2008 10:09 AM
Chuck Willman
Chuck Willman - Alpine, UT
NewHouseUtah.com

Mirela- Take the contents of all the things this world offers... they number in the billions. Yet is there anything larger and more central than family? Our heritage profoundly impacts us. My wife's father passed away two months before our son was born. That was nearly 17 years ago and we still bring him up in often in conversation- how great it would be for him to witness this... and this. I have a confidence that these relationships are not temporary and accidental... that there's something beyond... still- that doesn't take away a simple fact. We miss our loved ones. I wish you well in this season- days like these can be so tough. Thank you for privileging us with your very personal post.

Jun 14, 2008 12:08 PM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Chuck:  Again your comments stir in me a million thoughts.  I don't know how you do it. 

"Very personal post":  I probably sell as well as I do, not because I am a great sales person, but because I listen, I care and I disclose myself.  I accept myself as a deeply flawed person and I am not embarrassed by any of my shortcomings.  Because I have accepted myself, I accept everyone else.  Consequently, I have no problem revealing myself and people reveal themselves to me in return.  When complimented on a dress, my instant response was:  "You like it?  So do I!  ...And it was only two dollars!"  The girlfriend who was with me thought that was just too much information.  To me it's funny that people care so much about the appearance of things.  It's only the substance that counts...  I'm an open book.  When I ponder on an issue I like having others' input, so I can bring into focus related items I'm not even considering.   It helps me make better decisions and it clears my head. 

"I have a confidence that these relationships are not temporary and accidental... that there's something beyond... "  Yes, I think so too.  When the flame of life goes out, the energy of the soul is still burning bright. 

...Yet the corporal being is the only tangible fulfillment....

Jun 14, 2008 01:04 PM
Michael and Cheron Lange
Solutions Real Estate - Chandler, AZ
Associate Broker, GRI

Mirela...What a personal and inspirational post!  The way you miss your father is the way I miss my mother.  I lost her one year ago to cancer...the worst part is my father lost her after 48 years of marriage, his true love and passion.  As he says I feel her in every move I make, and yet all five of us kids know she's around when we need her...her presence is felt beyond anything imaginable.  We are a family of Christian values and do believe that when Christ returns, the joy that it will be so will our mother.  God Bless you!

Cheron Lange

Jun 14, 2008 03:21 PM
Gary McAdams
GMAC Schwartz Property Sales - Key West, FL

Happy Father's Day to all the Fathers here on Active Rain.

Jun 15, 2008 12:07 AM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Gary:  Same to you!

Cheryl:  That must be so difficult!  I don't know what I would do if I lost my mom.... 

"The worst part is my father lost her after 48 years of marriage, his true love and passion.  As he says I feel her in every move I make, and yet all five of us kids know she's around when we need her...her presence is felt beyond anything imaginable."    ...That is such a beautifu passage!  It touched me!  What a love story! 

Thank you for sharing your pain with us.  Happy Father's Day!  I know you'll be there with hin to help assuage the pain...

Jun 15, 2008 04:12 AM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Father's Day with Daddy by the weeping willow...

Jun 15, 2008 02:50 PM
George Tallabas
RE/MAX Advantage - Nampa, ID
Idaho Real Estate

You have said before how much we are alike Mirela and it's getting scary!  I think about my dad often and you already know what he meant to me.  I feel his presence constantly and I know where I get my strength and determination. I also want you to know how much I loved our conversation last night and that I am praying for you. Rest well my sweet friend.

Jun 15, 2008 04:29 PM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Thank you George!  Your kind heart makes mine smile! 

Jun 15, 2008 04:31 PM
Iriana Shiyan
Artazum, LLC - Bellevue, WA
Atazum Seattle Real Estate Photography

you made me cry. My dad is still here, 10 thousand miles away, but I can call him. I miss him too.

Jun 15, 2008 04:33 PM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Irina:  That's a lot of mileage.  I hope you fly to see him often.  It's hard being without the ones you love.  I feel for you!

Jun 16, 2008 02:25 PM
Cindy Eanes
1st Choice Realty Group - Chesterfield, VA
Realtor - e-PRO, SFR, ASP

Another wonderful post on an important but sad day for some of us.  You touched my heart and made me cry. I thought I had done pretty good this Father's Day until I checked your blog.  I lost my daddy 19 years ago.  He was a real "stinker", good looking with beautiful blue eyes and dark hair.  He had a great smile, full of himself and mischief all the time!  He was also one of the smartest people about so many things I have ever met.  He could build a car completely, compose music (even though he never had lessons or any particular instrument), he was a very good artist, who loved history and especially music. He worked hard every day of his life, right up until his death.  My favorite times with him were when I was three or four and we would dance to all the old R&B from the 60's.  I studied dance and still love that old music because of him.  (Guess thats another reason I love Myrtle Beach, the music is always playing somewhere there) My biggest regret with him dying so early is his missing his grandaughters grow into the lovely young women they are.  My oldest barely remembers him and my youngest has no memory of him.   Well, I vented enough here.  Our memories may bring a tear but they also leave us warm and hopefully with a smile.

Thank you Mirela! 

 

Cindy Eanes

Realtor (R)

Harris & Associates, Inc.

Jun 17, 2008 03:06 AM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Cindy:  Now you made me cry!  What a beautiful passage this is!  Thank you for pouring your heart out; it was very touching! 

I would have really liked your father.  You are so lucky to have had such a multifarious man for a role model.  You have that gleem in your eyes, that "I'm alive and tuned in and I'm going to enjoy this ride of a life" you must have inherited from him.  Precious moments shared...  He lives in you and your girls...

It's an honor to have you read my blogs!  Thank you!

Jun 17, 2008 10:02 AM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)

Mirela - I miss my dad, too!  I am going to include this post in the Family Ties recap tonight.  Thanks for sharing about your father.

Jun 22, 2008 01:16 PM